Sometimes You Just Have To Be “Rude”

I had a friend once that, whenever I walked into his house, would ask me if I wanted a beer and then proceed to open one for me regardless of my answer.

Even if I stated that I didn’t want the beer, he’d place the open beer on the table and say something like “you have to drink it now, it’s open”.

It seemed innocent enough in that he just wanted me to have a beer with him, but ultimately it made ME feel rude of I didn’t drink it regardless of the goals I had set for myself.

So here are two things that I came to realize…

1) If you’ve explicitly stated that you did not want the food/drink before it was presented, you are not obligated to consume it.

2) You only need to be “rude” once. If you don’t eat or drink it the first time they sure as heck aren’t going to do the same thing next time without listening to your answer first.

After all eating or drinking something out of social pressure to conform is generally not a good idea. It sets the precedent (to you and those around you) for how you’ll behave on such occasion in the future.

If you CHOOSE to enjoy something off plan that is fine. But make sure those choices are YOURS and not those of other people who are not supportive of your goals.