Revealing Is The Beginning Of Healing

“Revealing your feeling is the beginning of healing.

If you want to get over this and get on with your life, you need to be healed. You need to tell somebody else.

When we don’t have one person in our lives that we’re completely honest with, we wear masks. We pretend and we fake it and we’re dishonest with each other and we play games and we’re hypocrites. We pretend that we have it all together, when everybody knows we don’t. We act like it’s all right when it’s not.

What does that do? It isolates you from other people. It prevents intimacy. And it keeps you from the deepest level of love. You cannot love fully with guilt in your heart.

You are only as sick as your secrets. The fact is, the more you hide, the sicker you get. On the other hand, revealing your feeling is the beginning of healing. When you find someone that you can trust and who listens to you and shares with you, you know what happens? You find that they’ve got big problems, too — often the same problems as you.

There’s something about telling another person that uncorks the pressure valve. When you let the boogeyman out of the closet, all of a sudden, the boogeyman isn’t so big any more.

If you want healing, you’ve got to stop concealing.”

– Rick Warren