Differing Mindsets & Progress

Mindset … it’s such an interesting thing, especially when it comes to nutrition/dieting, etc.

I’m often reminded of the difference in people’s mindsets when looking at client biweeklies. For the sake of example, I’ll use myself at one end of the spectrum and a random female client at the other.

So, I’m dieting right now. I’m about two months or so in and the good news is that one, I’m ahead of last year’s pace and two, thanks to an unusually effective last two weeks, I’m leaner than I’ve been in a long time. This should be a good thing right? Yeah sure, but … I’m losing ‘weight’. I woke up at 219 (albeit due to being very depleted) today, which is the lightest I’ve been in a long time. I like getting leaner, seeing all the vascularity and definition … but I hate losing ‘weight’. If I could drop fat and not change bodyweight at all, I’d be satisfied. Anything less? Typically unsatisfied. Not exactly realistic over the length of a diet though is it?

Contrast …

Female cleint - submits a biweekly and her observations based on what she’s seeing, tell her that she’s getting leaner, harder, smaller, maybe even a little more vascular. Basically bodyfat must be dropping and progress is there. Measurements are even down. Clothes fit better. However, there’s a problem - she didn’t lose weight, or at least not enough.

Now, when I see this, my first thought is ‘AWESOME’. However, when such results are reported to me, they’re often alongside a feeling of disappointment that the scale didn’t drop. So, I’m happy about this, but the person in question appears unhappy about it.

To me, this is the ultimate result

To her, it’s far from it.

What’s it mean though? It means muscle gain in the face of fat loss - the sweet spot. Does it get any better than this? Muscle gain in a caloric deficit? Sure, it might not be significant gain (as compared to eating in a surplus) but hey, we set out to maintain muscle while dropping fat. Any gain is great. If you’re obviously leaner, by way of observation, pictures, measurements, clothes fitting differently, etc., and you’re weight stable then this is what you’re experiencing.

So it comes back to my point about mindset. Me? I want all the changes associated with getting leaner and losing fat … but do not want the scale to drop, or at least, drop as little as possible. Her? Sure, she wants all that too … but wants to see a big drop on the scale instead.

Interesting isn’t it? Is it a gender issue? A ‘girls want to be small and guys want to be big’ thing?

In my head, even though I know better, if I see a significant drop on the scale over time (even though all other signs of muscle retention are there), I sometimes feel like I’m not getting the right results.
In her head, even though she knows better, if she doesn’t see a significant drop on the scale, even though all else points to progress, she feels like she’s not getting the right results.

In both cases, flawed thinking.

Again, take the focus off the scale.

If you’re after maximum physical changes, you technically don’t want the scale to change much. Losing fat? Improves how you look. Gaining muscle? Improves how you look. Composition of weight is what matters … not weight itself.

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10 Responses to “Differing Mindsets & Progress”

  1. Karoliina Says:

    All of this is soooo true! I think it is a gender issue.

  2. Jackie Says:

    GREAT blog Erik. I don’t think it is necessarily a gender difference, I think it is a time difference. Like you have been doing this for a while. You know what it means for the scale to stay put and other things to change. People new to weight training and dropping FAT don’t yet grasp this concept. I know it took me quite a while to not believe the scale meant something

  3. Patricia (imadshoney) Says:

    So true. Seeing the scale stagnate makes us (or me at least) second guess the visual observation part. “Am I really looking leaner?!!?”
    I can’t stand others’ fixation on weight. Ever since I have started training for my competition the only question I EVER get asked is “How much weight have you lost???” :shakeshead:

  4. Cindy/Lite Says:

    This was based on me, wasn’t it?! :funny: LMAO I’m not new to the concept at all, but still got caught up in the second guessing. :oops: I’ve switched that gear in my brain and am good now thanks to a nudge from you. Thanks Erik.

  5. Blondell Says:

    Thanks for posting this, Erik. :)

  6. Gwen Says:

    Great post Erik! Thanks for taking the time to write…

  7. mich56 Says:

    Great entry Erik!! Thanks!

  8. Sherry McK Says:

    This is a great post! Everything in it is so true, our minds can play very strange games.

  9. Noel Says:

    Then stop asking how much I weigh :lol:

  10. Audrey Says:

    I am actually VERY glad to be reading this! I thought I was the only crazy person who liked to diet without seeing the scale drop. It’s great to see that I am not the only one ;) I think it is actually the hardest thing for me when dieting: seeing the scale drop. I don’t mind the hunger, being a little more tired, having to do more cardio… but seeing the scale drop messes up with my mind - everytime. Even if I know that I am obviously maintaining muscle (strength maintaining or increasing in the gym), I still do not like seeing those lbs. go away.

    I would seriously love to diet and not lose one single lb.! And it would not bother me - not even one bit.

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